Have you ever experienced being excited as you picked your child up from your ex… only to find yourself getting irritated by your child’s excitement as they talk about their time spent with their other parent?
At times like these, it can be a “challenge” to share the same level of enthusiasm your child has for the other parent.
Because right now, you may not be feeling a whole lot of love so to speak toward your ex, and there is a gap between your child’s feelings for the other parent and yours.
In these moments… it’s important that you keep those feelings to yourself.
Yes, you have the right to your feelings and your child has the right to theirs. But please don’t impose your discomfort onto your child either verbally or in non-verbal expression. You never want to put your children in the middle.
For example… Let’s say your child is all excited talking to you about something they did or something they feel about their other parent. You cannot roll your eyes… or do any other non-verbal expression that might give your child a sense that you don’t want to hear about it or are uncomfortable.
Be grateful that they love your ex, and that they enjoy the parenting time they have with them.
Children love unconditionally! You and the other parent both shall receive this from them.
That’s the gift of unconditional love.
Dr. SueAnne Magyar-Hill
Support System Inc.
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