Children And Divorce: Holding Onto Negative Emotions?

Finding yourself dragging, exhausted, and feeling weighed down?

If you do… these can be signs that you are carrying or holding onto negative emotions.

Children And DivorceIf you are divorced or divorcing, then you know that you and your children have been going through a great deal of emotional change, role reversals, and responsibility shifting.

Thoughts about your children and divorce can make you feel like an emotional volcano.

So it’s important that you and your children learn how to release emotions so as not to carry them.

Here are some things you can do:

  • Speak or write your feelings
  • Practice releasing
  • Teach your children how
  • Visualize the waves

When you speak your emotions or write them down, you actually are able to release them in an external way.

Next time you have some uninterrupted time with your kids (eating meals out is a good time for this) have them do this…

Have them write down or draw their feelings on a napkin or piece of  paper. Then have them focus their intention and destroy it.

They can tear it into tiny pieces and throw it in a garbage can, they can shred it, burn it, etc… it doesn’t matter how they get rid of it.

What’s important is that they understand why they are doing this and focus their intention on releasing those emotions.

Emotions resonate in your body. Good ones will produce a healthy body and negative ones will produce an unhealthy body.

Disease is really dis-ease in your body.

You can’t be your best if you’re hanging onto anger. Emotions that are from your past, even if it was from yesterday, will intrude on your “now”, and will not let you be the best you can be.

How you handle your emotions and what you do with them is within your control.

As a parent, it’s your responsibility to teach your children how to manage their emotions.

You don’t get in trouble for feelings, but you will for your actions. So it’s important to not let your emotions rule.

Think of your emotions this way

Imagine now standing at the edge of an ocean with your feet are in the sand and waves are splashing up against you. Some waves come furiously, some come at  slower rate and as the waves keep coming you stand there.

Work with the wave energy rather than trying to resist it. You are not standing there trying to hold back the waves, rather you are letting the waves pass through and around you.

Emotions are like waves in the ocean

They continue to come but they are ever changing so no matter what size, frequency, strength, or shape they may appear as, you stay present and let them pass

So next time situations come up remember the waves analogy and be a role model for your children by applying these techniques.

In support…

Dr. SueAnne Magyar-Hill
Support System Inc.

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4 Responses to Children And Divorce: Holding Onto Negative Emotions?

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