Sometimes the effects of divorce on children will cause them to not want to have involvement with their non-custodial parent.
You need to encourage your child and support this relationship with the other parent.
You may find your child has a habit of not feeling well on the days that they’re supposed to have parenting time with your ex.
You many even hear them come up with creative and interesting reasons why they shouldn’t go like… “The other parent’s house is too cold.” or “They don’t have the snacks I like.”
To them, one excuse is as good as another.
Here are some things you can do.
Encourage them to talk to their other parent. If they are struggling to have their voice, let them know you will help them to talk to them.
Remind them that although they’re resisting reconnecting with the parent that moved out, in the long run good things will come from it.
Remind them that it’s all going to be okay, and that you’re going to work as a team. They’re going to be heard, and you and your ex are going to do everything possible to help them make this transition.
It is your responsibility as a parent to help them transition through this divorce. A healthy relationship with both parents is important throughout life.
So work as a team in co-parenting and help bridge that gap for your child so there is no resistance in wanting to connect with the non-custodial parent.
For parents and children alike, life is a never ending process of growth. You need to constantly work on yourself and on your relationships.
Dr. SueAnne Magyar-Hill
Support System Inc.
Founder of Empowering Children Of Divorce
P.S. One way to help develop a stronger bond between a parent and child is to do something together. Below is a challenge you can do together that will benefit you, your child and others…