I want to talk about children of divorced families that share some common fears when a parent moves out and what they tend to be.
When a parent moves out, questions asked from children tend to center around day to day activities and events. Questions like…
- Who will I live with?
- How will I get to my after school activities?
- Who will be there for me when I get home from school?
The list could go on and on for them depending on their age and the activities that they do.
So here are some divorce tips for when a parent moves out…
Parents, you need to respond to your child’s concerns.
One thing you can do is make a calendar so that they know the dates and times, and who is taking them.
It’s also a good idea to write down numbers of your cell phone, grandparent’s phone numbers, neighbor’s phone numbers etc. They can keep it in their backpack or their wallet, then if they’re in need of connecting with someone, it’s already in their cell phone or they have a list of these numbers.
A white board or cork board is good or any kind of schedule you can put up in the kitchen where people can write to each other. This provides comfort because from morning until night your child knows everyone’s whereabouts and which parent is going to be their contact and supporter for the day.
All these tools will help reduce anxiety about unknowns that your child might be experiencing.
I encourage both parents to do this.
It’s all about communication and knowing, and those two things will help reduce many fears.
Dr. SueAnne Magyar-Hill
Founder of Empowering Children Of Divorce
P.S. When was the last time you challenged yourself?