Are you feeling like you need a few more hours added to your day to get it all done?
Are you wanting some divorce advice on how to get more of that special parenting time with your child, especially since your family is going through a transition, and you’re feeling like you need to connect a little bit more?
Well, you’re not alone. Most people, whether going through a divorce or not, feel over-worked, overwhelmed, and over-committed, and kids lives tend to be just as busy…
In order for there to be a healthy balance and a healthy relationship with your child, you really don’t need extra hours in your day.
What you do need is to make a conscious effort to spend 20 minutes with your child a day, every day, that is devoted to them and uninterrupted.
There’s been a lot of interesting research indicating that spending that just 20 minutes of undivided attention with your child a day will fill their bucket so to speak, and fill yours as well.
So, what are some of the things you can do in that 20 minutes?
For the younger child you want to get into their world. You can play a board game, play with their dolls with them, or play with toy cars and trucks. Get down to their level, actually get on the floor and play.
As kids get older, that 20 minutes of time will be spent differently. It can be a tea time or hot chocolate after school to talk where you can catch up on the day. It could even be when you’re driving in the car or when you’re going grocery shopping together.
In the car, resist the temptation to turn off music to try get them to talk. Let the radio play. The radio playing the music they like combined with the distractions all around as you drive and not facing each other directly may be just the formula to get them to open up and start sharing.
Whether they admit it or not, kids grow to love this one-on-one time and parents do as well.
In the evening kids tend to be most receptive to talking about things. The divorce advice I give parents is to just be available for them. You don’t even don’t even have to talk. Just be with them and let them initiate and control the conversation.
This kind of daily time together is very doable and is priceless for both of you.
You know, one of the greatest gifts you can give your child is to acknowledge them for their place in your life and in the world. You can experience that at a whole new level by taking The 21-Day “I AM a Gift to the World!” Challenge below.
Dr. SueAnne Magyar-Hill
Founder of Empowering Children of Divorce
Ambassador of Children and Divorce, HowToLiveOnPurpose.com
By taking The 21-Day “I AM a Gift to the World!” Challenge, you can start making a difference not only for your child, but for others who most need it.