Now that you are parenting solo, your work has just compounded. You need extra hands, an extra set of eyes, and maybe an extra set of car keys to get done all that needs to get done for your children.
It can be difficult to maintain balance with your children through divorce and you can feel like your running around without enough time in the day. Now is the time to learn to ask for and receive help from those that love and support you.
So, have you been asking for help?
You can start receiving help now by:
- Giving yourself permission to ask.
- Reaching out to let loved ones know you need help.
- Allowing them to experience the joy of helping.
First off you need to give yourself permission to ask. You may feel you are expressing weakness by asking for help but the truth is that it takes a strong person to recognize that they cannot do it all. It’s time now to ask.
Then, by reaching out to loved ones, your parents, sisters, brothers, cousins, and friends who know you’ve been going through a difficult time, you’ll allow them to step forward and help you.
Allowing them to help you is like giving them a gift. People love to help and make a difference for others. They have been waiting patiently for you to ask. You now open the door for them to experience that.
Reach out your hand and let them know that you need them to be a driver, or make a meal, or pick up one of your children. They will love participating and helping you with your children during this difficult time.
By asking for help, your are also sending a message to your children that these loved ones, this extended family, and all these people that have been part of your lives will continue to be part of your lives even though mom and dad are no longer living together or married.
Asking and receiving support from your loved ones can go a long way and it’s definitely the time in your life to reach out for it and to accept it. It’s good for them, it’s good for you and it’s good for your children suffering the effects of separation and divorce.
It’s time to ask.
You’ll also want to learn the Five Critical Commitments you can make today that will empower your child before, during and after divorce.
Dr. SueAnne Magyar-Hill
Support System Inc.