A new way of thinking about success is needed, and it could help you feel better about yourself, according to psychologists at Athens University.
Psychologist Michael Cavanagh said the “self-esteem paradox” was a growing issue and one that had been discussed for some time.
“I think people are very quick to dismiss the idea that if you are successful you are an idiot, you are stupid, and you’re not,” Mr Cavanach said.
“That is not true, and I think that is one of the reasons we’re seeing people feel uncomfortable with the idea of self-improvement.”
Mr Cavanah said the paradox was the idea people could feel confident about themselves and not be able to feel bad about themselves, but the paradox could also lead to a lack of self confidence.
“In a lot of the psychology that we’re studying, we see a lot more people feel like they’re failing themselves in some way, and that’s because they are not being as confident as they could be,” he said.”[It’s] not that they don’t like themselves, it’s just that they can’t seem to get over that feeling that they’re not as good as they can be.”
Self-esteem problems have been on the rise in recent years, with many young people failing to achieve their academic, professional and personal aspirations, and the study by Athens University showed that the rate of self esteem problems in Australian adults was nearly double the national average.
Psychological research shows people can become overly confident about their own abilities and abilities of others, which can cause a negative self-image.
The paradox was created by the idea a person is not as successful if they are unsuccessful, and therefore they have to be successful themselves to feel confident, Mr Cavallach said in a press release.
“What we find is that people tend to believe that if they’re successful, they are intelligent, they have good values, and they’re good at things, and so if you’re successful and successful, you must be good at other things as well,” he added.
“This is one reason why a lot people think that if a person feels good about themselves that they have a good self-worth, but if they feel bad and they have negative self esteem, then they can never feel good about their success.”
Dr Cavanag said it was important to acknowledge that there was a difference between success and failure, but that people could find ways of overcoming these difficulties.
“One of the problems with self-help books is that they try to tell you how to get better, but actually the truth is that you can only achieve success by working at your best and improving yourself,” he explained.
“If you think you are a success, you feel great about yourself and are confident that your skills and talents will be used to the maximum benefit, but it’s really the opposite.”
When you’re a failure, you get stuck in the trap of thinking that you’re the only one who can achieve this.
“To help you achieve success, psychologists have developed the “Success Brain” which allows people to assess their own and others success, and to identify how they can improve themselves.”
It’s like a ‘happy brain’ where you have all the right thoughts, you have a feeling of control, and your mind can go anywhere it wants,” Dr Cavanac said.
Dr Cavalls said people with negative self confidence would not find the “success brain” helpful, as it might not be as effective.”
The ‘success brain’ is very powerful because it can identify how to be more successful,” he told ABC News.”
But if you have negative thoughts, your thinking is not going to be as clear as it can be, and then you might be thinking negative thoughts about yourself or other people.